Feeling good about yourself feels good.
We’re here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with being proud of yourself, and enjoying that smile inducing feeling that runs through your body when you feel the glow of self-love and appreciation.
We want you to recognise that there is a difference between proud of yourself and being arrogant. Some people are so worried about being perceived as arrogant that they never allow themselves feelings of self-pride, and that is a tragedy.
There is no doubt that we all know someone who is prone to taking a positive comment and turning it into a negative. They downplay their achievements or knock back praise and compliments whenever they hear them. Often this type of person has trouble opening up in their personal relationships; they want someone else to make them feel good, but don’t realise that they get in the way of the good intentions of their loved ones by never allowing themselves to feel positive. We teach others how to love us by how we love ourselves, so if we are always being negative, it teaches others to participate in those negative thoughts too.
Being able to be loved and love yourself requires a change in how you feel/think about yourself and a move away from negative and dismissive frame of mind to an accepting and positive frame of mind.
It may take time but you’re able to start with simple little steps like replying to praise and compliments with a genuine ‘thank you’ instead of replying instantly with a negative rebuttal. Getting moving and active is also a great place to start. The hormonal response your body has post working out with the rush of endorphins it releases into your body, leaves you with the ‘feel good’ feeling throughout your whole body and mind.
Try surrounding yourself with a community that lifts you up, not one that brings you down. This can be your circle of friends or a community of people you work out with at a gym who are there to support you and not only help you but encourage you to feel good about yourself. Having the right people around you to celebrate your progress and success, means you can enjoy the feeling of pride in your achievements and not shy away from them because you think that they will be taken the wrong way.
Feeling good about yourself feels good. Helping others feel good feels good too. If you’d like to join a community of hi-fiving, encouraging, smiling and improving people who are always keen to meet new legends, come on down and say hi!
Confidence; The feeling or belief that one can have faith or rely on someone or something.
Today we’re looking specifically at ‘can rely on someone or something’. Having the confidence that your body will be strong and mobile throughout your life is an often overlooked aspect of ‘mental health’ as we age.
Being strong doesn’t mean you have to be a bodybuilder or a powerlifter throwing around huge dumbbells. It’s also having the strength to complete day to day tasks with ease and without restrictions. Strength is not only a physical attribute but a state of mind. Having a strong state of mind is just as powerful, possibly an even more important tool throughout life allowing you to cope with life’s ups and downs.
Physical exercise is a fantastic way to build your confidence. The lessons you learn when putting your body through physical stresses can be more valuable than those learnt listening to some person talking at the front of a classroom.
Completing an exercise that has your body under great physical stress, (once you have caught your breath back), gives such a euphoric feeling because when you find yourself of the edge of giving up finding that little bit extra and finishing, shows you’re capable of more than you originally thought!
The confidence you gain from those moments spills over to everyday life, you will always find yourself in situations where you’re not sure if you will be able to get that assignment done, have those documents ready for your boss or have your presentation ready in time. You’ll then be able to call on that inner strength you found in the gym and channel that energy towards your day to day tasks.
Finding that extra gear in training and silencing the voices in your head that tell you to quit, is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give yourself. Building physical and mental confidence that then permeates all areas of your life.
Find your confidence in the gym, and tackle life with the faith that you can rely on someone – Yourself – at all times.
Help yourself so you can better help others
One of the hardest things you can do is to have an honest look at yourself and ask yourself the tough questions. Self-awareness doesn’t just happen, it comes from being able to take a step back, question and answer honestly how you are performing in all areas of life.
Are you taking care of yourself or filling your time up trying to make sure everyone else is alright?
This can be a very confronting question for some people because they have spent so much time ignoring themselves and expending all their energy towards the problems of others. So much so, they don’t realise they aren’t looking after themselves.
This can become so much a part of someone’s identity that they feel like if they spend any time or energy on themselves that people will think they’re being selfish. Thinking that taking time out for yourself is somehow a negative action is not only unhealthy, but can actually hinder your ability to help the people you want to.
Think about it. You are helping everyone else become a better version of themselves so they are able to live happier, healthier lives, but ignoring your own health and happiness. You are helping others feel loved and supported, without loving and supporting yourself.
Experience is the best teacher in life. If you learn how to take time for yourself and become a healthier and happier version of yourself, than in turn you become better at supporting other people. You become the representation of what you are preaching rather than telling others to do as you say, not as you do.
Becoming the best version of yourself mentally and physically isn’t selfish, it’s inspirational!
It’s not about losing Kilograms. It's about learning to love yourself regardless of the numbers on the scales.
It’s not about losing Kilograms. It’s about gaining strength and a sense of confidence to love yourself no matter what number is on the scale.
‘I don’t like my body’ is a sentence that we come across every day. In today’s day and age if you ask someone to name 20 things they don’t like about themselves it will be answered with no hesitations. Ask the same person to name 10 things they like about themselves and you’ll be hit with countless ‘umms and ahhs’.
Being insecure about your body is not something only experienced by one person. Even though it may feel like you’re the only person who does experiences it, there is a huge percentage of the population who suffer from these negative self-perceptions.
It affects both men and women. With social media and touched up photos constantly in everyone’s face it’s not hard to see why everyone has no idea what to think about their bodies.
Most of these issues are based around the visual representation of the person’s body. Instead, if you start to look at the functionality and strength of your body it can lead to massive positive changes in your self-perception.
Changing focus from the visual to the functional can help you stop obsessing about instant results on the scales, and in-turn help avoid crash dieting. Instead, it turns your focus towards how your body is performing and feeling.
Noticing your back doesn’t hurt anymore; you can do movements ‘X,Y and Z’ with more freedom; you feel stronger; look healthier (not just skinnier); notice how the food you’re eating affects how you’re feeling and enjoying food again without guilt; are just some of the positive side effects that can occur with a switch in mindset.
The functional perception of yourself also contributes to a healthy and positive mindset because you are focused on making small wins across multiple areas of your life. Just like a wall, you start to rebuild your broken and negative head space brick by brick with positive thoughts collected from your small wins. With increased functionally your confidence starts to build as well.
As your confidence grows you learn to push yourself that little bit harder, set bigger goals, attempt things you previously didn’t think possible and enjoy life more! You worry less about the small things because you’re confident in your own skin.
Exercising leads to an ‘I Can attitude’ (I can’t do that + exercise = I can do that)
You see someone lift 100kg.
I see some who started with just the bar.
You see someone run a marathon.
I see that person starting by just walking around the block.
You see an amazing weight loss before and after.
I see momentum, built gram-by-gram.
Only seeing the end result of hard work is deceptive. You only see the joy and elation of results or the train of momentum at full speed that makes people look superhuman. You don’t get to see all those little challenges each and every one faces on their fitness journey.
If you take someone who wants to run a marathon but hasn’t run in years. They usually don’t look at that 42.2km distance and go I can do that easy, it’s daunting prospect and on day one they may doubt whether they can achieve their goal or not. What they can do is start by walking around the block. Starting with something they ‘can do’. Then they walk 2 laps, 3 laps, 4 laps… From walking to jogging, from jogging to running further. Building the belief that ‘I Can’ with every step, bit by bit.
This momentum doesn’t happen overnight and doesn’t come without moments of questioning your ‘I can’ do attitude toward each of those mini goals. Being able to look back from where you started to where you are gives you the confidence to keep moving forward through new challenges.
Exercising is about building your capabilities slowly, piece by piece to ensure the risk of injuries is minimized and your body is able to adapt to the gradual increased stresses. The stresses are not only physical, each step forward is a small mental win too, until you build yourself mentally to a point of relentless forward momentum.
Pick an end goal. Break it all the way down to a starting point, a point where you believe ‘I Can’.
Do that and start from there. If you don’t know how to break down your big goal to that starting point. Lets have a chat - Izzy@Jonesbrothersgym.com